“I Can’t Believe You Actually Think That!” A Couple’s Guide to Finding Common Ground about Peak Oil, Climate Catastrophe, and Economic Hard Times

“Opposites Attract” has become a truism about marriage and intimate relationships.  Why, then, are we so surprised to find that some of us, who see a dramatically different future looming, have partners who aren’t so sure?

Who are you to fret about “getting your spouse on board,” as if you have some kind of “Noah’s Ark” that will save your family from certain disaster?

At the same time, are you tired of being ignored by your spouse when you talk seriously about what you see coming?  Sometimes the approach is wrong.

Do you lecture your partner like:

• A “Wizard of Odds,” with a “Timeline of Turmoil”?
• Do you embrace your role as an “Elder of Entropy?”
• Is your dinner hour a “Diatribe of Doom,” distancing you from those you love?

Let’s face it.  Love is the capacity to say “maybe…” when you disagree.

Whether or not we feel a deep certainty, what we most need to share isn’t our faith, but our feelings.  You may be sure TEOTWAWKI is coming, but the wild-card is “When?”

And won’t you need your partner before collapse is undeniable?

How do we tone down our rhetoric and ramp up the conversation?   Can we find a passion that speaks from a place of love, not an insistent litany that drones:

“Now is the time!”    “This is the place!”   “Here is the answer!”

This E- book is for both of you – the Doomer and the Skeptic.  While the Doomer might buy it, the Skeptic will read it.

It will make you laugh.

It will poke fun at both of you.

Unless you had a “shotgun wedding,” do you really have to shanghai your partner to “get them on board”?

My audience are couples who love each other and want to stay together, to get closer, and work towards a common goal—with a common purpose.

I won’t try to convince anyone of “the facts,” because facts don’t change hearts and minds.

As a clinical psychologist who works professionally with “battling couples,” I’ll talk specifically about what happens when marriages get into trouble, and how they mend.  I’ll encourage you both to slow down, open up, and explore what works for you right now, as a family, and discover your shared, common values.

You’ll “lighten up” and “get serious.”

Together.

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Dr. McMahon is the only licensed psychologist active in the Peak Oil blogosphere.  She’s been researching and writing about the psychological impacts of Peak Oil for the past (almost) five years, and she’s trying to put the humor back in “Doomer.”  Dr. K is “Living the Dream,”  with a Doomstead, larder, livestock, and an active community.

No B.S.  No New Age Psychobabble and I don’t trash survivalists.

“This is a true Doomer Psychologist you can believe in, (assuming you still believe in anything…)”